Etiquette of seeking a spouse

Behaviors of looking for a companion
 

For what reason am I getting hitched? 

This is a decent inquiry to pose regardless of whether you are meeting the individual to settle on an ultimate choice since it will be an update about the genuine reason for marriage according to an Islamic viewpoint. 

Marriage is important for confidence and it is essential for the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, harmony and endowments arrive. 

"Marriage is a responsibility and relationship that beginnings in this Dunya (world) and will proceed with Insha Allah in Paradise together,"

 

what am I searching for in a mate? 

Abu Hurairah related that the Prophet said: "Men pick people for four reasons: for their cash, for their position, for their excellence, and for their religion, yet wed one who is strict and you will succeed" (Bukhari, Muslim). 

This obviously, applies to ladies also. 

Be that as it may, religion it appears isn't in every case first in the personalities of many individuals. Indeed, it's most likely the keep going component on an excessive number of Muslims' rundown. 

As indicated by Tasneem Qadeer, one of the seven volunteers who runs the Islamic Society of North America's marital help, being a specialist or a legal advisor is considerably more imperative to numerous Muslim ladies than devotion. 

Also, the men are no more excellent. Numerous marital promotions in Islamic distributions, for example, exhibit a critical interest for a "fair, slim and beautiful". spouse is "reasonable, thin and wonderful". 

"Assuming we need to have solid Muslim families then Deen must be first," says Aneesah Nadir, leader of the Islamic Social Services Association of the United States and Canada. 

She is one of the co-engineers of the program "Marriage the Islamic way", which shows different parts of marriage like how to discover a companion, the wedding, and the post-wedding marriage.

 

Continuously request references 

This is likewise where your "outsider" proves to be useful. Not exclusively can they be your reference? They can likewise look at an imminent mate's references. 

A reference can incorporate an Imam who knows the sibling who proposed to you, a sister who knows the lady you might need to wed well, a family companion, a chief, a colleague, or potentially a colleague. 

A note about genuineness and references: individuals you ask may know something not extremely pleased with regards to your imminent companion. Advise them that in the event that they uncover this data, they would not be conniving according to the Islamic viewpoint. Truth be told, on account of looking for marriage, complete data ought to be given with regards to an individual, both great and awful. 

The guidance of one of the mates of the Prophet, Umar Ibn al-Khattab, can help in such manner: 

A man came to Umar ibn al-Khattab and talked in recognition of another. Umar asked him: "Are you his closest neighbor to such an extent that you know his goings and his comings?" 

"No." 

"Have you been his buddy on an excursion with the goal that you could see proof of his great person?" 

"No." 

"Have you had dealings with him including dinars and dirhams [money] which would demonstrate the devotion of the man?" 

"No." 

"I think you saw him remaining in the mosque mumbling the Quran and moving his head all over?" 

"Indeed." 

"Go, for you don't know him..." 

What's more, to the man being referred to, Umar said, "Proceed to bring me somebody who knows you." 

(cited from Islam The Natural Way by Abdul Wahid Hamid, p. 66) 

This gives you three sorts of individuals you can get some information about an imminent mate's person: a neighbor, business associate, or somebody who has gone with them.

  25th September, 2021